hey girl I'm sorry about what happened, but I guess I can suggest few things, first off you really need to see who you're planning your future with, it's nice he loves his mother and respects her, but he seems to be a typical mamma's boy who is blinded and doesn't work his own brain once she has given an order, can you imagine your married life with this guy, what will happen if situation was when you were husband and wife, secondly I feel even the elders of your families and acting like kids, you and your bf need to decide something and make them sit and talk, you both need to stand together for yourselves and not just you
I understand you , you feel you have found your person, but your person doesn't just need to be someone you have fun with, but someone who also respects you cares about you takes you seriously, think thorough about that, another thing, please act like adults if your families are not
@shanaya I talked with him ,he isn't willing to communicate with his parents at any cost..I talked to my parents who are very welcoming and have no issues with the relationship..I have repeatedly asked him to talk to his mother,but he is blocking me out and at no cost willing to communicate..Should i consider this as an inability to stand for me? when I need the most and take a step back from this relationship.. because he upon my continuous attempt to make him talk ,has reduced communication with me and has asked for some alone time..please guide me what should I do
@stefan I talked to my parents who have no issues at all ,but he on repeated confrontation to talk to his family,isnot willing to communicate and has asked me for some alone time ...i feel helpless
I also had only one person in past who was two timing. After that i never ever been in a relationship. I don't know who he's or anything but just want to let you know to not get too attached to an outsider and think more about it as marriage is a lifelong decision.
@shimranbhattacharya@gmail.com give him the time he needs, but don't get restless, also don't keep waiting for long, sometimes no answer is the answer, respect yourself your family and take a decision needed
@shimranbhattacharya@gmail.com of course it’s clear he’s someone who’ll leave your side when most needed , I'm sure you would not like to be with someone like that forever, a strong relationship depicts love respect compassion power, you feel that with him?!! And if you don't there's no point staying there with him
Hello!
I agree the situation looks like a catastrophe, but believe me, it is not fatal and there is a way out. I understand that you are very hurt because of the inability to see and communicate with your loved one. But let’s switch off emotions for a moment and look at the situation from the outside. So, what we see: a young man, under pressure from his mother, almost stopped communicating with his girlfriend. The girl hopes to continue the relationship, because she loves him very much. Meanwhile, he minimizes their interaction.
Do you like this situation? Imagine that this story is happening not to you, but to the heroes of a novel. What would you advise each of them? What would you do if you were that girl?
My vision of the situation (I will also describe it from the outside): the young man, under the pressure of his mother, decided to break up with his girlfriend. He is afraid to tell her straight about this, because he does not want to hurt her. But his silence and unwillingness to make contact causes her even greater suffering.
The girl holds out hope that things will get better and is looking for contact with the boyfriend. In turn, he keeps on pulling away even more. It’s a vicious circle, out of which there is only one way out: an honest and open dialogue.
Let’s talk about you. In my opinion, the right way is to talk to the boyfriend and dot the i's. Truth, whatever it may be, is better than uncertainty. In a conversation, do not try to put pressure on him or persuade him to do something. Your task is to find out his position and express your own position, no more, no less. If the boyfriend says he is not ready to answer you, set a specific date when he will do this: you cannot remain in a state of uncertainty forever either.
Finally, I’d like to say one more thing. Our actions speak louder than words. Your boyfriend did what he did. This is his choice and you can hardly change it (what for?). This may sound rude, and I’m not willing to blame anyone, I rely only on the facts. But I should say: it’s good that this situation happened now, not when you would have had a family and three children. Learn the lesson from the situation and move ahead.