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megan kohler
38d ago

male friend dosent want to be friends anymore because i dont want him romantically

Recently, a friend of mine, whom I’ve only known for a few months, asked me if I would ever consider dating him, I said that I only really saw him as a friend. He seemed to be fine with it and said he wasn’t one of those people who would hold a grudge with me about it. Yet last night he called me and said he didn’t want to be friends with me anymore because he really cared about me and thought I could love him. I can’t help it if I don’t feel a romantic attraction to. He claimed I was being shallow because the last time we hung out we talked about relationships and I mentioned that I may have a type of guy that I could crush on. I don’t only care about only looks. Personality is more important to me. I was only talking about having crushes not being genuinely in love with someone. He claims I hurt him by being shallow because he can’t change his looks or who he is. I don’t want him to. I can’t help it if I only see him as a friend. He says that there is no reason I should not want to be with him because he was always kind to me. He always has been kind to me and I appreciated it but I only saw him as a friend. He said I broke his heart into a million pieces because he dosent think he will be good enough for anyone. I know that feeling I really do. I am truly sorry I hurt someone. But I can’t help how I feel. Am I shallow? I didn’t mean to be. Looks are nice but they are not the most important thing to me. Am I wrong for only wanting to be friends with someone? I would never dream of hurting anyone but I can’t help how I feel. If he dosent want to talk to me anymore ok. But it still hurts that he can’t just be friends.

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