If your penpal was always searching for an offline relationship and was vocal about it, you probably knew deep down that some day he might begin dating someone. The best option for you is to start paying attention to someone else, maybe someone close by, with whom you won’t need to communicate via snail mail but will be able to walk in the parks and daydream in the cinemas. You’ve got lots to give, and giving it to someone who wants it feels amazing!
Tell him the truth, as you did to us! If he’s a good friend for you, he’ll be gentle about your feelings and will appreciate your boldness. Even if the feeling is not mutual, you’ll get that off your plate and then think of what’s best for you.
i wouldn’t want to be part of a love triangle. if you think you can’t overcome your attraction to your penpal, then you’re on the losing side. you’ll keep investing your time and energy into relationships that mean different things to him. why don’t you take a break in correspondence and see if what you’re feeling is that strong, or was it perhaps a habit of knowing someone nice and distant?
What are the chances that you’ll meet in real life? Count me reckless, but I’d just communicate in clear and unambiguous words what you feel for him and see what happens next. Will you regret it? Yes, you might. But I’d prefer to sort the feelings out and be done with it, rather than continue pretending to be friends and suffer for it.
Fight fire with fire! Find someone who’s madly in love with you, be happy and enjoy your life! As soon as you fall for someone else, you won’t think your online friendship is doomed. It simply won’t affect you, and you’ll decide what to do about it.
Long-distance relationships don’t work. Been there, am telling you from experience. Think about how many things you’re missing out on when you can’t be close to a person. Whatever you decide about your penpal friend, don’t forget about real romantic life.
Call me selfish, but I’d try to keep your friendship if it makes you feel happy. At least as long as you’re single. I once told a friend that I had a crush on him, and it totally wrecked everything between us. If you realize that you can keep everything the way it used to be, then give yourself some time before answering and treat your correspondence as a source of pleasant emotions, but nothing more serious. Is it possible?
Friendship between men and women works only if it’s what both want. Real friendship is based on honesty and respect, so, however you look at it, you should be sincere with yout friend about your feelings.
I told him.
I’ve sent him an email just now, telling that what I feel for him is more than friendship.
Thank you for your support and words of wisdom!
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