Polyamory destroyed my relationship! 😡
We’ve been through so much together: his depression, my miscarriage. even me identifying as bisexual was never an issue, until I had this stupid idea that polyamory might spice things up a bit for us. It was such bad advice, why did I take it? I thought all our problems were from boredom, six years together is a lot of time. I also thought that in a monogamous relationship my needs weren’t being met. Initially, my husband was not keen to open our relationship, but when I suggested we invite only bisexual women and no other men, he seemed reassured. I thought it was only fair! I’m bi, and never fantasized about my husband seeing other women…
So I found a third, a girl of my age. We established very few rules: no unprotected sex with others, never involving friends, and deciding on the third partner together. My husband liked the new girl, but she turned out to be more into women, and I ended up spending more time with her than with him... It irritated him, we began arguing again, and I decided to change our partner. I found another woman, also bi, but she’d been in a mono relationship with a male, like myself. Again, the husband seemed to like her, and things were fine for a month or so. Then he suddenly lost interest and isolated, started to come home late from work… I thought there was a problem between him and the second woman again, so we talked, and it turned out no, the woman was not the problem… Turns out he hated the whole idea and became resentful towards ME. I agreed to put it on hold, however a few days later he comes and suggests we invite a certain woman he has chosen. I was against it. She is not bisexual, for all I know she’s a divorcee looking for a new partner… She is also my sister’s friend, we weren’t super close, but I said it’s against the rules. To which my husband lost his temper and shouted at me, saying the rules were stupid and if I wanted a real polyamory that’s what it had to be like. I was so agitated I cried and went out to think it over. When I came home in the evening, most of my husband’s clothes were gone, and he didn’t answer the phone during the weekend. I later found out he’d moved in with my sister’s friend and impregnated her!! My marriage is ruined, we’re about to file a divorce, and I feel guilty and foolish… All of our problems could have been solved normally, not like this. We could still be happy with each other. I’m so terrible!
