update on male friend

So in regards to my friend saying he couldn’t be friends with me anymore because I didn’t want to be in a romantic relationship with him and only saw him as a friend, he called me the day after our conversation and apologized for his behavior. He said it was wrong of him to act like that and that he was projecting his insecurities on me which was wrong. I accepted his apology but I’m still upset about what happened. I keep doubting myself. Am I really shallow because I sometimes have a type? Yeah sometime I notice a persons looks but I care more about personality. Looks are only a second to me. I wouldn’t date a guy who was good looking if he had a terrible personality. I feel like crap really but I can’t help it if I’m not romantically into someone and see them more as a friend. Can’t I be friends with men and not be involved with them romantically? Am I the only one who finds the whole “ friendzone” thing kind of sexist?