I love how men are hate being generalised when women make the statement “ALL MEN” but do absolutely nothing to prove otherwise. It doesn’t make sense how men allegedly don’t know any creeps or abusers but every woman and her mother, sister, aunt and grandma could tell several stories of how they or associates were targeted, harassed or assaulted by one.
Men hate being accused of predatory behaviour but refuse to call out their predator friends and acquaintances. Men hate when women say, “We choose the bear” but go to antagonise them further proving the point of why they do. The same way men argue “not all men” should be applied in various context. Not all men are abusers but not all men hold their abuser friends accountable. Not all men are rapists but not all men speak up or prevent assault from happening. Not all men are violent but not all men intervene to protect anyone in need.
Because the truth of the matter it IS all men, it’s just very few took the time to educate themselves and actually unlearn a lot of the toxic masculinity society has instilled in them. Men hate being generalised but reinforce the toxic ideology of what it means to be a “man.” The “all men” statement infuriates them because it’s an uncomfortable conversation requiring accountability that many aren’t willing to have.
Assault, violence and abuse doesn’t just happen to women and people assigned female at birthday, it happens to other men too. But because toxic men have normalised predatory and abusive behaviour, it makes coming out for men who’ve experienced these things difficult. The way men antagonise women and anyone AFAB continues to perpetuate cycles.
Men don’t want to be perceived as violent and abusive rapists but continue to defend and associate with men who are, then want to silence women and survivors regardless of gender. Even as a masculine person myself I will NEVER closely associate with men because every time I give them the benefit of the doubt it’s always resulted in them saying or doing something to remind me they’re like every other toxic man. This is why my circle will remain small and with women and queer people only.
