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yweimann530
1y ago

Scared of society

I'm 19 right now. I dated a guy from my school for 3 years and we broke up last year.After that another guy said me that he likes me.This guy didn't have a good name in my school.Everyone used to call him a playboy,alcoholic etc.Even I knew about his behavior. But still I said "Yes" to him.I told him that let's keep it a secret.Because I was scared that my schoolmates would judge me for dating him.We were in a happy relationship for a couple of weeks.After that I was unhappy for his behavior. I didn't like the way he used to treat other girls.I wanted to breakup with him.But his friends used to call up to me and say please don't leave him.We can't lose our friend.He is harming himself etc(But actually he wasn't).So I used to get scared and forcefully stay with him.Once he came to my home when I was alone and we clicked few pictures at my home.We used to meet at the cafe etc.But still I was unhappy about this relationship .When I wanted to breakup he wouldn't let me go.But one fine Day I made up my mind and somehow broke up with him.After that he got really furious and starting telling everyone bad about me. He used to tell everyone that I am a S**t.He showed them the pictures we clicked in my home.So now everyone is assuming that I slept with him at My place.But actually we didn't. Now everyone is slutshaming me.Due to this I'm not able to go out of home.Now our school is over.We all are in college. But still I'm not able to get over this.I know I have made a lot of mistakes. But what can I do now.Pleasw help me



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bubu
1y

I understand what you are going through, being a girl I can completely understand your situation and that's why I would like to tell you one advice which most of the girls know but never do, make your parents and family aware of it, many a times girls have felt caught up because they think their family will look down upon them and blame them or something, no , your family is family, they'll never never do anything to you and won't even let anything harm you. If you have your family by your side, you can fight him you can legal action against him, which is actually a good idea, if he is still bothering you, you take a legal action against him, and at times they make the culprit write something in such cases, which says that if ever anything related to this case repeats or in future the pictures get viral , then the first person in the radar of doubt will be him, so if you are scared after complaining he might to something in future then don't worry he won't because of this pact


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stefan
1y

Hello girl, hope you're doing fine, look I would like to suggest you that first involve your family in this, they should know they're your closest ones who can die for you, so don't be scared of judgements, because our own people do not judge and help in our difficult times , so inform them and collectively get to a decision and I am sure your parents will definitely do something which will be in your favour


Rest about the people, you shouldn't be giving your tiniest bit of attention to them, you should feel right from within, that is important, everything else doesn't matter, you should be able to accept yourself, look at yourself, be confident. Somebody tries to mess with you, answer them straight back, take stand for yourself OR listen form one year and let out from the other

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yweimann530
1y
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@bubu thank you so much ❤️

yw
yweimann530
1y
Author

@stefan thank you 😊


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cor
1y

the guy certainly lived up to expectations-- he was bad, he was bad, and he still is. Think about it, what's in those photos? You dated him. Tell everyone how he cheated on you, learn how to "fight back". You should just go out and tell everyone. You'll have supporters.

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