Society and Sex

There’s nothing that turns me off more than someone who’s hypersexual. Whether it’s a result of trauma or lack of sexual discipline, it’s genuinely unattractive to me and not just because I’m asexual. If you can’t have a civil conversation without making it sexual, don’t engage with me. I’m so tired of trying to build relationships with men and they’re immediately trying to initiate intimacy.

For a VERY brief moment I thought I met a seemingly normal man. We were talking just before I began working through my self care routine which consists of meditating, hydrating, stretching, doing something creative, listening to my favourite tunes and self help exercises. By the time I replied it had already been an hour so I apologised for the delayed reply, informing him I was doing CBT. “CBT” the abbreviation for cognitive behaviour therapy, this fucking weirdo thought I meant cock and ball torture. Blocked him immediately after communicating things won’t work.

But this not the only time I’ve experienced something like this and it’s exhausting. There’s absolutely no way it’s THIS difficult for people to have casual conversation without being promiscuous? This is exactly why I haven’t used chat and dating sites in almost 10 years. People are quick to jump to sex without knowing the person and it’s appalling to me. Until I’ve known a person for 7 or more months, sex is off the table. If that’s a dealbreaker, so be it. Even as a sexually active asexual, this is exactly why I only date within the asexual community.

Jesus fuck.