Fear can be a powerful force, but it doesn't have to control your life. I've had my own battles with fear over the years, and I've learned that facing it, even in small ways, can make a big difference. Start by acknowledging your fear. It's okay to be scared, and it's okay to feel vulnerable. Focus on your breathing. If you feel anxiety creeping up on you, take a few breaths, tell yourself that everything is going to be okay and that this is what you need to do to get to your desired destination. Think about your destination and how good you will feel when you get there.

I too was afraid to fly on an airplane very much. The mere thought of a plane would make my heart race. I vividly remember my first flight experience. I was gripping the armrests so tightly that my knuckles turned white. When the plane started to take off, I felt the same symptoms you described. To cope with my fear, I started researching various methods to manage anxiety. I found it helpful to distract myself during the flight. I would bring a book to keep my mind occupied. Reading helps time pass way faster, so try that one! And yeah, I hope it’ll get better for you!

@summeryundt64 that's actually good advice as well! Thinking about your destination rather than focusing your mind on the fact of traveling. It helps you stay focused and motivated. When you constantly think about the end goal, it gives you a clear sense of purpose and can help keep you moving forward even when things get tough. I actually never thought of it before so thanks! I'll try to implement it on my next flight

I'm really sorry to hear about what you're going through. I can't say I know exactly how you feel, but I can relate to the whole anxiety thing. I get super anxious in social situations, so I know how crippling it can be. About the flying, I read somewhere that deep breathing exercises can help. It sounds simplistic, but focusing on your breath can calm your nervous system. Have you tried listening to calming music or podcasts during takeoff?? Sometimes distracting your mind can work wonders.

As for the night travel and bike riding, it might help to gradually expose yourself to these situations in a controlled way. Like, start with short, manageable rides or shorter trips at night with someone you trust. The idea is to desensitize yourself slowly. It's often called "exposure therapy" and there's a lot of science backing it up.

I feel your pain deeply. I remember the time when I first realized I had a fear of heights. It was during a family trip, and we were on a Ferris wheel. As the wheel started to get higher, I felt like I couldn't breathe. I tried to hold it together for the sake of my family, but inside, I was veryyy scared. Your description of your legs becoming weak and numb, and your stomach feeling empty was how I felt back then..With time, it kinda went away for flights bc I know that it's the safest transport in the world, so no need to worry about that

about the bad travel experience, it's so natural to feel anxious after something like that. our minds and bodies remember those scary moments. i think it's great that you're reaching out for help. sometimes sharing these fears can make them feel a little less heavy. maybe you could try breathing exercises or something to help calm your mind when you feel that anxiety coming on.

the bike accident, that must have been really scary. it's no wonder you feel anxious about riding again. those memories can be powerful and it's completely okay to feel that way. if you ever need to talk about it or just want some support, i'm here for you. sometimes just knowing there's someone who gets it can make a big difference.

remember, it's okay to take things slow and find what works best for you. you're not alone in this and there are people who care and want to help. keep reaching out and don't hesitate to share your thoughts. it takes a lot of courage to face these fears and you're already doing a great job by seeking help. if you need anything, i'm always here.

Oh dear, sounds like you’ve got quite the adventure going on there! 🌪️ Acrophobia is like your body’s way of saying, “Nope, we’re staying on the ground, thank you very much!” 😂 Flights can be super scary, like a rollercoaster without the fun part. And those feelings? Ugh, it’s like your body is throwing a tantrum. “Legs, why you gotta be like this?!” 🙄 But you know what? You’re braver than you think. Every time you face it, you’re giving fear a run for its money.

Traveling alone at night or by train? Sounds like a plot from a thriller movie. But you’re the hero, and heroes always find a way. Maybe imagine you’re on a secret mission, and tachycardia is just your body getting into character. 🎬 And that bike? It’s not the enemy, just a misunderstood friend. You’ve been through a lot, and you’ve come out the other side. That makes you a rockstar in my book. 🌟 Keep rocking, and remember, every time you face your fears, you get a little stronger. You’ve got this, one heartbeat at a time. 💪

Dear, fears and phobias can be incredibly debilitating, making us feel isolated and powerless. I've had my fair share of fears throughout my life, and I know how they can grip you tightly. Acrophobia, or the fear of heights, is a common fear, and it's important to acknowledge it without judgment. Start with small steps. For instance, if flying is daunting, try to familiarize yourself with the environment in small, controlled ways. Visit the airport without the pressure of a flight, or watch videos of flights to slowly get used to it. 

@Pain-OFF I agree. Also want add that when you’re feeling stressed. close your eyes and picture a place where you feel at peace. This mental escape can provide comfort in moments of high anxiety. Remember, it’s okay to seek support from those around you. Share your fears with a trusted friend or family member who can offer comfort and understanding. You are not alone at all, and taking small, manageable steps can lead to progress over time. Be patient with yourself, and know that overcoming fear is a journey, not a destination.

It's common for past traumatic experiences to trigger anxiety and fear when facing similar situations in the future. But know that your anxiety can be managed and you can work towards overcoming your fear. The idea of starting slow is really a good one. Someone has already advised you that, but I want to go more in depth on that one. The idea is to slowly and safely introduce yourself to the feared situation. One effective strategy to start is through a process called Hierarchical Exposure. This means creating a list of anxiety-provoking situations related to your fear, ranked from least to most terrifying. Start with the least fearful situations and progress gradually to more challenging ones. With time and repeated exposure, you can build confidence and reduce the intensity of your anxiety response.