I understand completely what you mean about wanting genuine connections. Life has taught me that sometimes less is more, having a small circle of true friends beats having many superficial relationships. Being authentic and direct is actually a wonderful quality! we just need to find the right people who appreciate that directness. What kind of interests would you like to share with potential friends?
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@Esther hey? I'm not the op but I could really use some help right now, like immediately. feel so lonely and like no one even cares
@Esther oh thanks you're really kind. thanks for responding... honestly just having someone acknowledge my existence helps a bit. i've been sitting in my room all day, watching the shadows move across my wall and feeling like i'm completely invisible to the world. it's weird how you can be surrounded by people but still feel so alone. haven't even had the energy to make dinner, just been existing in this weird limbo state. i guess what makes me smile usually is art i used to draw a lot but haven't touched my sketchbook in weeks. everything just feels heavy and grey lately.
@Esther i mostly do digital art, character designs and stuff. used to post them online but lately i've been too scared of criticism. i actually noticed this really pretty sunset earlier through my window - first time i've really looked outside today. the sky was this incredible mix of purple and orange. i almost reached for my tablet to sketch it but... you know how it is. but maybe... maybe i should have. talking about it now makes me wish i had captured that moment.
@SheKnows I'm here! Tell me what's on your mind? I've had those days too where everything feels overwhelming and lonely. Sometimes I just need someone to talk to and share random things with like today I saw this really funny cat video where the cat was trying to catch its own tail and ended up rolling off the couch! I find that sharing little moments like that can help lighten the mood. What kinds of things usually make you smile?
@SheKnows I absolutely love that you're into art, I'm actually terrible at drawing myself, but I really appreciate people who can create beautiful things. Would you maybe feel comfortable sharing what kind of art you usually create? I bet it's wonderful!
Authenticity is such a rare and valuable trait! I've learned through my life that being direct and honest, while sometimes challenging for others to handle, ultimately leads to more meaningful connections. It's wonderful that you know your worth and aren't willing to compromise your values. That's true that not everyone is ready for that level of authenticity, and that's okay. The right friends will come along who appreciate your straightforward nature and pure heart. Finding your tribe takes time, but it's worth the wait.
The key is to stay true to yourself while remaining open to different perspectives and experiences
True connections are worth their weight in gold! ❤️
Keep being your authentic self - it's refreshing to see someone who values honesty and directness. Being straightforward might not be everyone's cup of tea, but it's a gift that the right friends will treasure.
Stay open to new connections while honoring your values. ❤️
It is immensely hurtful when a friend betrays you. Being straight forward, honest is a valuable trait and sometimes it can be perceived as blunt or critical or rude by others. It might unintentionally create a distance between you and your friends. Straight-forwardness can be perceived negatively depending on the context and delivery. Consider how you express your thoughts and feelings as you can choose the words which is assertive but not hurting. Straightforwardness means that you value honesty and transparency but at the same time care about what others think and feel if i say this way.
Frame your words in a way like you don't have to say you are wrong but you can say look i see it differently. This way you say the person no i don't like it because i look at in this way.
You should also chose the right moment to express your thoughts like do it privately with your friend than in a group or do it when your friend is more relaxed. This way she/he will be in a better state of reception and it indicates consideration.
When you make friends do share your intentions with them. Clarify with them that you believe in constructive communication and not criticising a person. This is how you can make friendship which would be genuine as they wont understand your intention and your nature till you don't explain. Not everyone can understand us so it is important you do set it clear for them from the beginning of the relationship.
You can also start using I statement instead of saying you are wrong or you are not listening. You can say I feel upset that you are not listening or i feel this way you could have done it better.
Consider seeking out social opportunities like joining clubs, activities or classes where you can meet like minded people. shared interest groups can provide a strong foundation for genuine connections.
While staying true to yourself try to gauge into other's comfort levels with directness. then adjust your approach accordingly. This doesn't mean compromising your values but being mindful of how you express them. Remember genuine connections takes time to form and requires effort to discover the right connections but do always clarify from the beginning your trait.