It is okay to mourn things that are lost. Give yourself some time to process it, and then start rebuilding your new life. At the end of the day, happiness is not about having a lot of money. Many rich people are deeply unhappy. You might think now that you’d still prefer to be richer and I understand that. But think about what fulfills you right now. You can choose a new direction, a new goal to strive for. Will it be a new business, or simply a better job than your current gig? Will it be new relationships? New friends? It’s up to you. Make that goal and start taking steps towards it. Day by day, so that you could be proud of yourself. Positive thoughts of self-worth come when you regain control of your life. It would be super cool if you made it your first goal to drink less alcohol because it is a depressant that will only increase your anxiety and self-loathing.
No business is easy. And financial security is only one part of what makes people happy. Find other things to value! It’s not important how often you fall to the ground. It’s only important whether you decide to stand up, shrug it off and start anew. Don't give up!
Relocating is very stressful. And coupled with your financial problems, it must be wearing you out. There’s no need to always be positive. Just keep doing things. One tiny achievement a day is still progress. Like going out for fresh air, or casually searching for a better job, connecting to old friends. You have all you need to make that change!
I'm happy to chat with you to learn more about your problem if you need extra encouragement.
Little wins. You’ve learned all the lessons you needed to learn from your failure. Now stay focused on your mental health and on your little wins. You found an odd job? Good, not perfect, but better than nothing. The next win will be to change it for something better. You can do it!
Sending good vibes your way.
Perhaps you can turn one of your hobbies into a new career? Also, find the time for online therapy (I’d suggest offline, online is simply cheaper).
You forgot to add to your list of “other people’s troubles” that some are in jail now ;) Seriously, you’re free to make a new start. That’s not an opportunity that all of us have. Don’t take business personally. Your value and your talents are beyond it. Find a new way and thrive once again!
Don’t run yourself into the ground. Maybe try to detach your self-esteem from your work if you can... You need to figure out what brings you consistent joy and find the time for it. Or rather, make the time for it, consciously. Don’t allow drinks to be your only sources of joy. It’s short-lived and venomous. You’re right in saying that you’re alive, and that’s the most important thing. Things will change for the better, just not overnight.
Everyone makes financial mistakes at some point in their life. Avoid dwelling on what happened and how you would do things differently going forward. Accept your mistakes without judgement so you can move on and direct your energy elsewhere. Beating yourself can lead you down the road of making more mistakes.
The first step is to accept the reality. yes i understand its a huge set back and very devastating but now what is done is done. accept the setback, let go of it and commit to forward movement. This is the best way to help yourself. if you waste your energy talking about the misery then you will have less energy to dedicate in solving the real challenges you are facing in present to move ahead in life. Life teaches us lesson so just look at this as a lesson and assess where you went wrong, learn from the experience.
When you are spiralled with negativity you will only continue to think everything negative so first you need to start seeing at least 3 positive things happening in your life. Like an example at least you are doing perfectly healthy and fine and you are safe that is most important. Money can always be earned. Excess negativity will keep us blinded from seeing something good.
Read this article of how many people lost it all and came back stronger https://www.inc.com/bill-murphy-jr/11-inspiring-people-who-lost-it-all-and-came-back-stronger.html . Steve jobs co founded apple worth millions. later he recruited a CEO who later fired Steve jobs itself. But Steve jobs did not get disappointed. He said getting fired from apple was best thing that could happen to him and he started from scratch again.
Think what is your goals and start making realistic goals and objectives.
when you said i need change that itself indicates simply recognition of reality and a important step in healing.
Financial loss is a difficult setback but with right coping strategies you can make it through.
It's completely understandable why you've been feeling so overwhelmed. Losing your business, having financial issues, relocating - all of this can be extremely stressful, and can take a massive toll on your self-esteem.
But it's also worth mentioning that by acknowledging these thoughts and feelings and reaching out for help, you're already making first steps to getting your life back on track.
I want to share a practice that might help you remember some of the things to rely on during this difficult time.
First of all, think of situations in which you faced difficulties before. Ask yourself, how did you overcome them? Think about strategies you used back then. Write it all down. For example: "When I felt overwhelmed by different tasks before, I managed to relax by going on short walks during my lunch break" or "I managed to complete a difficult project by deviding it into short steps". Then make a list of the skills you've made along the way (e.g. time management, leadership, communication skills).
Your experience is a powerful source. You've made a long way already. I suggest that despite the negative situations, you also faced some positive ones, that you can be proud of. So remind yourself of things that you achieved. Make a list of them as well. They could be relatively small achievements like completing a task, going through a tough day or significant ones like graduating from college.
Make another list - qualities that you like about yourself and that help you in your journey - like good empathy, creativity, sense of humor, or determination.
Next, take a moment to reflect on your values - what is really important to you (e.g. helping others, creative work, discovering the world, etc). You might feel lost right now, but remembering your values and needs can help you set some goals and recognize in which direction you want to start moving, even though the future is uncertain. Just set simple achievable day-to-day tasks for yourself. For example, if your goal is to find a new job, the first step would be identifying important criteria for the desirable job position (e.g. salary, type of tasks, work format), next step would be searching for the job positions, then editing your CV accordingly, then applying for 5 positions a day, etc.
Your experience, skills, qualities and values are your internal sources of support that are always with you, no matter what.
Now think of some external factors that you have in your life right now, that you might rely on. Look at the area of your relationships, for example. Perhaps, you have friends or community that you can turn to for emotional or even material support. Remember, no one is safe from difficult circumstances, we all need help sometimes and it's okay to ask for it.
Identifying these sources of support can make it easier for you to navigate the challenges. Take one day at a time and don't be too hard on yourself.