You have achieved professionally so great . Its dream of many to do post graduation. The thing is its personality trait , if you dont have much friends . What you need is remind yourself that there were times when you thought , you couldnt do this . But you did this . 2ndly color height and these issues in arrange marriages is backward thinking in sub continent . If you find a person who is sincere and forever for you , thats the one you should marry . Hopefully that will happen for you and you wont be lonely ..
hey girl, I completed understand what you're going through, I know all of this because I assume you're an Indian, and all these people and their opinions on our lives seem so unnecessary yet effective, I feel you did not have enough fun as a college student so you don't have that sense of living, I feel you have always been kind of on a mission, whether it's completing studies, getting job or getting married, think about yourself, what do you want from life, have some fun, people and parents expectations are never ending, our lives seem like a project for them to complete, but don't be yet another project of them, you need to know what you want, what you love, do it, give yourself a break, and if you don't wanna get married then there's no point of what your parents think about you, of course you're more than enough and an achiever, do not judge yourself on the basis of what people around you feel about you
Lord I don't understand that this is still happening in India😭 I mean I don't know when the norms of society will change, why a woman is like a project for everyone, that they need to complete and handover to her husband, why can't she have opinions and life of her own and do things According to when she feel is the right time and not when they think it's time, lord still being judged over age height color, it's terrible, I mean she's a doctor, why don't you start telling such people that they don't have even half of your brain maybe then they'll understand that they're not complete win win at life either, you really need to stop giving attention to these, you need to just care about what's good for you what you care about, rest can keep talking close your ears to their unsolicited advices.
Nowadays it
Nowadays it's really hard to become a doctor in India we have to secure good marks in entrance and after all it requires a lot money to become a doctor if you have not secured well marks
u r not a failure sis u are on a great position.
Are you happy with your profession and speciality or was it also something you did because your parents and society expected that from you .
Hi
I feel the same way. I am an MBBS doctor and I married just after completing my studies. I was a great student, really studious and full of hope, but now I feel like going deep into a tunnel, unable to find my way out. I want to get out of this situation. I want to change and I want to be strong and independent. I made a mistake of being dependent on my husband... And now I feel like I am never going to able to support me and my kid. My confidence is gone and I have started hating myself for putting myself in this situation. I am friendless, jobless and stuck with in the four walls of my house. I am unable to step outside without feeling anxious. I had started self harming myself and it used to relieve my stress but I can't do it anymore because I have a daughter and I am the only one there for her protection.
All I do is cry in the bathroom...
Hello! Thank you for sharing your emotions and suffering. You are right, when we pay our attention to only one sphere of life (studies in your case) other spheres may seem to stagnate, as a result we may feel emptiness. In order to avoid this you need to pay your attention to other spheres of life as well. These include friends, hobbies, family, leisure, health etc. Start with small steps, for example, doing something interesting, which can bring you, joy. You say that you spend a lot of time online, but you can do a hobby instead. You’re perfectly right that there is no point in sitting and waiting for something to happen. You’re an adult and you are responsible for your life, so you have an opportunity to change it. So start making small changes, try to do what I said above. Step-by-step you can fix all the other spheres of your life. Don’t rush, do it gradually, preferably every day. You say that you are not able to love yourself. In order to do this I recommend you to do a simple exercise, which consists of three steps. Take a notepad and a pen. The first step will be writing down all your achievements, success and everything you are proud of. These could be both significant achievements like getting a diploma and small wins like your ability to cook tasty dishes. Write down at least 30 things. The second step will be recollecting what good things people (relatives, friends, patients) say about you. What qualities do they value in you? Why do they praise you? Write at least 20 things. Finally, the third step will be writing down at least 5 things you accomplished during the day. You’d better write this every day in the evening. This could also include small things like making the right diagnosis or trying a new activity. People are prone to underestimating themselves and undervaluing their abilities. But when they begin noticing and writing them down, they understand that everyone of us actually has something to be proud of. Including you.