The peace you describe in your relationship is actually a beautiful sign of maturity and deep connection. I am soooo happy for you!!!
When relationships evolve beyond the initial excitement, they transform into something more meaningful. Take time to journal about your feelings, write down what makes this relationship special. What makes you smile about your everyday moments together? What's your favorite morning routine with them? How would you both want to grow old together?
I am so happy for you and your post just filled my heart with such joy!! I hope you'll live happy ever after 🥹
The transition from chaos to peace in relationships can feel strange at first. But this is where real love grows. Think about what marriage means to you beyond the proposal moment. What dreams do you share for your future together?
omg bestie i'm so happy for you! like seriously, this is such a big moment! first off, can we just talk about how amazing it is that you're even thinking about this? that's already such a good sign! i totally get being nervous,who wouldn't be? but like, the fact that things are peaceful and not drama-filled? that's literally the dream! plus, you've already talked about marriage before? that's such a green flag! you're not just springing this on them out of nowhere. the anniversary timing? perfect! but honestly, any time would be perfect when it's with the right person. i get what you mean about those past relationships and the excitement thing. but trust me, drama isn't excitement, it's just stress dressed up fancy. you're not looking for excitement because you're bored - you're ready for this next step because you're secure! big difference! i say go for it! when you know, you know - and it sounds like you know! 💕✨
Love isn't always about fireworks and butterflies. This is exactly where you want to be in a relationship. The drama-free zone! Remember, marriage isn't about creating excitement - it's about building a life together. The fact that you're thinking this through shows wisdom
Your past relationships taught you valuable lessons, and now you're ready for something real and lasting <3
I totally get where you're coming from. I was in the exact same spot about 2 years ago.
I had been with my partner for a while and everything was just... peaceful. Like you said, no drama, no crazy ups and downs. Just nice and steady. And I kept wondering if that was enough. I had this weird worry that maybe I was just bored and trying to make things exciting again with a proposal. My past relationships were always full of drama and "excitement" (which I now know wasn't healthy at all), so this calm feeling was new to me.
But I went for it anyway. And it was the best decision I've ever made
That peaceful feeling isn't boredom, it's actually what real, healthy love feels like. It's like finally being able to breathe properly after having a cold for so long. The fact that you're thinking about this so carefully actually shows how much you care. You're not just jumping into it without thinking.
After I proposed, our relationship didn't suddenly become more "exciting" in that dramatic way, and that's a good thing! Instead, it got better in ways I didn't expect. We started planning our future together more seriously. We had these amazing conversations about what we wanted in life. We got closer in a different way.
The peace and stability stayed (thank goodness), but there was this new layer of deepness to everything.
It sounds like you two have already talked about marriage, which is great! That's way more preparation than a lot of people have
If you're worried about the timing, maybe make a list of practical reasons why now would be good or not so good. Like finances, living situation, career stuff, that kind of thing.
But honestly? From what you've written, it sounds like you're in a really good place for this. Having a calm, drama-free relationship iis pretty rare and special
Good luck with whatever you decide! But from someone who's been there, don't let the calm scare you away from something great!
@d.n Thank you so much for sharing your story! I'm actually sitting here with a ring hidden in my sock drawer (my gf never looks there lol) and your words hit home. But I'm still so nervous about the actual moment, like, how did you handle the actual proposal part? Did your hands shake? Did you practice what to say?
@d.n That's actually really comforting to hear! I've been writing and rewriting this speech in my notes app for the past month, but maybe I should just let it flow naturally? The funny thing is, we were watching a movie last night where someone proposed, and my partner didn't even notice how much I was sweating! I keep having these moments where I almost blurt it out, like yesterday during breakfast, or when we were doing laundry together. It's like carrying around this exciting secret that's just bursting to come out
@d.n YES!! The butterflies are constant! It's like everything they do lately makes me more certain, but also more nervous? And I totally get what you mean about the everyday moments, we had this perfect sunset dinner planned last weekend, and everyone kept saying it would be the perfect proposal spot, but it felt too... scripted? Meanwhile, this morning she was singing totally off-key while making coffee, and my heart just melted
@Crystal Rodriguez Oh my gosh, the sock drawer, that's so silly and cute!
And yes, my hands were literally trembling so much I almost dropped the ring. I actually practiced in front of my mirror for like a week straight, but when the moment came, I completely forgot everything I'd planned to say
But yhat made it even more authentic. I ended up just speaking from my heart, stumbling over my words and all, and my partner later told me that's what made it so special, seeing me all nervous and genuine
@Crystal Rodriguez Those almost-proposal moments are so real! I had like five false starts before the actual proposal
Once I almost did it while we were out with our friends, it was just this pure, simple moment of happiness, you know?
And those everyday moments sometimes feel more "us" than any fancy dinner ever could. The anticipation is wild though, right? I remember I couldn't even look at the ring without getting butterflies for weeks
When you find someone who brings peace to your soul, you've found a rare gem. The relationship you're describing sounds like it has a strong foundation. Consider planning some special dates or activities together before the proposal, not to test anything, but to celebrate what you have. Bless you both ❤️🩹
Thanks for all the uplifting messages! You guys are awesome! I would say that my main con would be that we haven't known each other for that long yet. Today actually marks the one year mark of just knowing each other. We both are also pretty young to that (20/21).
But during that short amount of time we have been through so much. Two family losses on my side, living in a 10^2m apartment for 4 month together (with shady neighbors to that) (in total we have lived together for 10months, the tiny apartment was just the beginning), lots of travels and so much more. We also love each others families tons and gel along with them great!
Like any other couple we are not compatible in every single way. But we always find ways to compromise, love and treat each other with respect.
It's sounds cliché, but with him I just know.
An engagement would also not mean instant marriage for us. We would most likely wait for 5+ years before putting that commitment on paper.
But hey, who am I kidding. I ordered the ring before I even wrote my first post here 😅. Might just get the guts to pop the question, right?
@Emoji It's so beautiful!
I think there is nothing wrong with you both being young. On the contrary, it is wonderful that you have found each other already. Many couples meet later in life, some even find their true love in their 50s. So you're lucky!
You've been through a lot together this year, so maybe it doesn't even feel like a year, but something more.
I say, why not?
Hi,
I understand the overwhelmed feeling, anxiousness to go ahead with proposing or take a step back. The confused feeling that is the right time needs to be address. For this you need to pause and evaluate your relationship. You need to have difficult conversations with your partner .