Explain what I'm doing wrong!!I can't build a close relationship with my husband. We've been together for many years and he lies to me all the time. It's terrible, and I can't live with him without trust.
For example, he lies that he doesn't go out with women. But all my friends tell me how he rustles women and nods affably to them. So he's interested in them. They, but not me! I started reading popular psychology and it was written there that if my husband tells me everything, what it means, the relationship will be close. And I started interrogating him every day. Well, we must somehow achieve the truth. I must say that it was difficult, I had to shout, and just "knock out" the truth. I get very tired of it, and my husband usually tries to escape. I look through his phones, and if he didn't tell me something, I get angry. I can't stop, hiding means cheating. My husband has withdrawn even more, and we don't talk much. I began to suspect even more that he has someone. He's not talking to me, but he's talking to someone. Of course, there are female employees at work. He even talks to them on the phone. Although for work, but how do I know, maybe not always for work. I don't get enough attention from my husband, and I can't achieve emotional intimacy. I also locked myself in for a while. While I was silent for 3 days, I hoped that this would have a negative effect on my husband. But he "came to life", and even somehow reached out to talk to me. He invited me to a cafe. And then I realized that here! emotional intimacy can turn out, and I started a heart-to-heart conversation in a cafe. He has to tell me the whole truth 4 years ago. We quarreled and the evening was not a success. it's all because of him, because he doesn't tell the truth. It's probably best to get away from him. But I love him. Some kind of eternal uncertainty.
