I'm sorry for your loss. My wife has recently lost her father, and we've been through very emotionally difficult times. Take it one day at a time. Keep your father alive in your memories. He will be looking out for you from above, and I'm sure he'd want you to be happy. Reach out to people and talk about it. It helps! My wife refused to go to counseling, and I think it was a mistake.
Take care of yourself. Grief manifests in different forms. Whatever helps you right now is all that matters.
We're here when you need to talk. Hugs
My condolences. The unexpectedness and the shock of it are the worst.
It will take some time before you accept it and learn to live again. I can only tell you time does change the feelings once you’ve processed it emotionally. I hope you’re surrounded by loving and supportive people. It will get easier, hold on.
Honestly, there are no words. Only time will help you heal… And other family members who share this with you. I suppose it gets a little bit less painful if you can get past the stage of denial. I have heard that some people find it helpful to write letters to their loved ones that have passed away. I guess it’s about leaving the grief on paper. Though, talking about it is even more helpful
I'd like to share a piece of advice someone gave me, as I have lost my sister two years ago: keep moving with the love and knowledge your dad gave you. It’s the best way you can honor him. I wish that you find peace and are able to press on having a good life.
Sending positive vibes your way! ✨ I can promise that you will find strength you didn't believe you had. It will hurt, but you will find comfort in your own ways. Hang in there. It gets worse before it gets better... wait it out. Ping me if you ever need a friend!
May I ask what you mean by tough times are coming back? Is something else happening in your life at the moment?
My heart goes out to you. No one can replace your dad. Allow yourself to feel all those sad emotions, and know you feel them because of how much you love him. But you have other people to live for. Since a year has already past and it’s still very difficult for you, I recommend you to try counseling.
Your wounds will not hurt that much in a year or so. I can’t say it gets better, you just get used to the feeling. It numbs and your brain adapts to it… There will be good days and bad days full of tears. You’ll miss him and there will always be a place in your heart for him. He will always be part of you. You’ll learn to cherish that part. Accepting it will take as long as it takes.
I feel for you and wish you all the best. It is very unfair when our loved ones leave us where we can’t reach them. You will be able to live a happy life. Please take your grief seriously. If you feel you can’t cope with it on your own, reach out for help. There are local offline support groups for those whose family members have passed away. And a psychiatrist may help you get your nervous system back on track. Take care!
I'm deeply sorry for your loss - the death of a parent is one of the most challenging experiences one can face. The journey towards finding a new normal after this is long and often isn't linear. Everyone has their own coping strategies, so focus on what works best for you. Here are a few things to remember that can make the process a bit easier.
Firstly, don't hold your feelings back. Feeling sadness and missing your dad is completely normal.
It's important to notice what you feel, stay with it, and then move on. You can do it by treasuring favorite memories of your dad, sharing them with someone like other loved ones or a close friend you trust, journaling about them, watching their favorite movies or listening to their favourite music with someone else. Just make sure you have someone to talk to as it will help you to process your feelings and experiences. If you're struggling with this a lot, consider reaching out to a counselor or a therapist with specialization in grief.
You can also set a certain time a day for thinking about these memories, like 30 minutes a day. It can help you feel more in control of your grief and less of overwhelmed.
It's important to recognize that there are things we can't change (for example, the loss) and focus on what is under our control. Reevaluate your values and think of what it is that you can do to honor the memory of your dad and the unique relationship you had (for example, by collecting donations for his favorite charity, sharing his ideas or stories, passing on a family name, etc.).
Don't forget to focus on the present as well and take care of yourself. Think if there are any needs that you’re neglecting (ask yourself if you’re eating three healthy meals per day, getting enough sleep, doing something relaxing at least three times a day, having someone to talk to, exercising, keeping your mind stimulated) and identify things you need to change. Set simple, manageable goals each day (like excercising for 10 minutes or taking a short walk) and celebrate little accomplishments. Consider spending more time with your family and friends, doing something you enjoy or did previously, involving in something new that will allow you to connect with others, such as volunteering. Try paying as much attention as you can to the activities you’re involved in.
Identify things you are grateful for that are present in your life. They could be big things like good health or small things like feeling the warmth of the sun. Write down at least 3 things that you're grateful for to yourself, to others and to the universe (for example: "I'm greatful to myself for taking care of my mental health", "I'm greatful to my friend for supporting me when i need it", "I'm greatful for the ability to enjoy music, art and everything thar brings inspiration"). You can do this excercise regularily to remind yourself of the positive things in your life.
There is no timeline for grief, so be patient with yourself and let it unfold at its own pace. Even though the sadness may linger, it will get easier over time.
Losing a person who has an intricate role in our life is difficult and processing this in our mind to accept reality is not easy.
You need to write down things which you wanted to tell your dad and this unexpected situation stopped you from conveying this. Write down all your thoughts, feelings you have currently, what all you are going through without him, what all you could have said to him. This will release down all the pent up feelings in your mind.
You can do things what he wanted to do which if he was alive could have got a smile on his face.
You can also think about the lessons he has taught you, simple lessons like how to live a life. see if these lessons can be used in your daily life. This way you can cherish his memories.
You can write down stories about him in the blog like an online dedication page or tribute page. Write down any incidents which he has shared with you. write down what all qualities did you like about him. ask all your close relatives and his friends to share their incidents. you can cook his favourite dishes and invite few close people. you can discuss and talk about your father. This will be a healthy way of coping with the grief.
its normal and natural that day's wont pass by without you thinking about him. It is to live everyday with these thoughts and memories but it is on you to make this memories cherished and joyful.. Don't hold in your emotions. just release it through these ways. Talk to a therapist if required.