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Hiii I'm Rai. I came here to write down my feelings since I have no one to share this with. I grew up in a toxic household where females experiencing discrimination. I'm an only daughter. I have two brothers, one is older and one is younger, in short I'm a middle child.

My mom and dad parted ways when I was born. I grew up with my grandparents comapany becaye my mom had to left us to her parents because she needs to work in order for us to live.

With my grandparents, I experienced physical abused. My grandma used to hit me with metal causing wounds and break bones. My grandma taught to be a fast-learner because if not, she will hit me again. A small mistake, is a big deal for her.

When I turned 7 years old, my grandma died. I was left alone with my brothers and my grandpa. That was when I started to seek for a female role model, a feminine energy sadly, I never get what I needed.

When I turned 7 years old my mom and dad got back together. I thought we would be happy but no. It became chaotic.

My family treated me like a trash. Funny how I expected them to treat me like a princess since I'm an only daughter but turns out, they're treating me like their yaya/nanny.

I'm also an academic achiever but my parents are not proud of me and they will never be proud of my achievements. For them, my grades are still low when in fact, I'm always in the dean's lister.

I remember when I bragged about my exam. I told them that I got the highest score in the class and they told me "as you should."

They never appreciate me, my hardworks and efforts. I did my best but it still wasn't enough for them. I'm so tired of proving myself to them. I'm always doing my best, I sacrificed my health but still, it's not enough. All they did was to humiliate me in public and bragged the things I have no control.

I'm so tired of fighting. I want to harm myself and cut my lines.

I can't ignore stories about a child with ADHD. My daughter is absent-minded due to ADHD. She's not very energetic, but mostly loses things, which is tough to deal with. She's lost many school items before, so I have to buy her a lot of pencils, pens, and shoes. Every time my daughter cries because she doesn't know where she lost her shoes. I feel bad for her and myself. Everything is scattered around the table and the room. I can't get her to clean up, she just ignores it. Her handwriting is messy and she misses letters. She has poor performance in math because she cannot concentrate. Lessons with a tutor help, but very slowly. She cannot memorize the rules. Or she doesn't want to. Studying is a torment for her. My fear is that she will not graduate from high school or get a trade. And if she's a homemaker, then . she might not be able to cook. She forgets food on the stove, food burns. Or she might put sugar in the soup instead of salt. It's useless to scold her, she only gets offended, but she doesn't correct herself. How do I prepare her for life? I cry sometimes, and I think I'll have to take care of her till I'm old.

Good evening, everyone.

I don’t usually do this sort of thing, but I decided that I need to hear other opinions on the matter.

I recently found out that my 13-year-old kid has been involved in online gambling and streaming video games for money. As she is underage, she befriended our neighbor’s daughter who is of age and can legally receive money. That one got all the money and the donations into her bank account and then gave my daughter’s share to her. I don't know when they started, but so far it looks like they’ve earned more than $1000 in winnings and donations. When I first learned about my daughter's activities, I was shocked and dismayed. As a parent, I have always tried to instill values of responsibility and integrity in her, and the thought that she was engaging in underage gambling and using a loophole to do it angered me.

So I confiscated the money. My primary motivation was to protect her from the potential dangers of gambling addiction and to send a clear message that this behavior is not acceptable. Additionally, I felt it was important to address the fact that she had lied to me (initially, she said she got the money from her grandmother, which of course quickly turned against her as I asked my mother the same evening).

Now comes the difficult part. My actions have not been met with understanding. My wife believes that I overreacted and that I should have handled the situation differently. She says we should have talked to our daughter about responsibility and the legal aspects of it all, instead of taking her money. My daughter just refuses to talk to me. I’m uncertain now. Have I made the right decision?

I am seeking outside perspective. On the one hand, I want to stand firm in my decision and set clear boundaries around my kid’s behavior. On the other hand, my wife’s words left me feeling conflicted. She didn’t support me, and now I’m the stinky dad, and she’s the diplomat. It used to be the other way round...

I am eager to hear from others what you think.

I don't know where else to turn.

The thing is that I can not understand my daughter. She's 17, she's the only child. We used to be very close, but now it's like we're strangers. She's always snapping at me, locking herself in her room, going out late with her friends. I try to talk to her, but she just rolls her eyes and says that I don't understand anything. I just want what's best for her! I'm worried she'll get in trouble or make a mistake. Maybe I'm putting too much pressure on her. But how could I not? I'm a mother! Any advice on how I can get through to my daughter? How do I get our relationship back to the way it was? I don't sleep well anymore, I just keep thinking about it.