Know that you are not alone. We all go through difficult times in life with our children, and sometimes it feels like never children will be successful. And no one understands how we feel. Not even the children themselves. They're annoyed by our parenting. And we want what's best for them. Write here and remember that there will always be people ready to support you.
Sending you good thoughts, I believe in you and I don't doubt for a minute that you can handle everything. You need to see a neurologist because the kind of performance and memory problems you describe are not something you can fix on your own. I have a tribe like that, so I know. And then you need to develop memory, organization, and will on medication.
Trust that you can do it, and you're halfway there.You're doing the best you can! Things will start to get better soon. Train your mind to be stronger than your emotions. be patient, you have a long time to raise a child!!!!
I'm so sorry that you have to go through this now, but it will pass.Often violent reactions to parental demands are a signal that the child simply lacks parental warmth and attention.Sometimes disobedience is due to the fact that the child's choice is constantly rejected and devalued by adults. Consciously create situations in which you can offer the child a choice: what shirt to wear, what cookies to buy, paints or pencils today to draw. Offer several choices so that the child learns to make decisions. So he will feel that he has the right to choose. And there will be fewer reasons to rebel.
I feel for you!!! It's hard with a baby like that!!! Accept her for who she is. I think the most she wants is for her mom to love her and accept her for who she is. Not try to change her. There are positive qualities in a child.....
Time will pass and you won't even remember it. The sand of time will carry away all your sorrows.
Generally kids with ADHD are often easily distracted. They may find it hard to pay attention to instructions, follow through on tasks, organise materials and keep belonging in order.SAs a result they tend to loose things necessary like books, stationery, eyeglasses etc.
Choosing a backpack:
The first step in organisation is find a back pack with one or 2 pockets which is 1 in the back and1 in the front and two small pockets if required. Count stationery and put it. put it evenly like 2 erasers,2 sharpeners, 2 pens, 2 pencils, 2 scales. all same colour but bright colour which they can remember. take a picture of it and stick it inside the bag so they can remember the colour and the number of pencil. This will help them in not loosing it.
Kids with Adhd always benefit form clear routines and expectation. When kids know what to expect and what they are expected to do they feel more prepared and less overwhelmed. Establishing routine is very important. This will help them to clean the room and table and be independent when it comes to tidying up. Routine like everytime you sit on table clean everything which is scattered, put shoes in same place, do bed everyday. Example you could create a calender and stick in the child room describing activities to be done everyday and clean their room on particular days instead of randomly suggesting they clean up when things get messy. let the child tick off each time they do the task. For each day write down things he needs to do and let it be consistent for every week.
Always give your child single instruction to do a things. if you keep multi step direction child will be confused.
Praise your child if he done the task that will motivate him
For handwriting get a tripod grip which will be easy for child to hold and write . work on child fine motor skills by squeezing a squish ball, build things with lego, practice buttoning on clothing, do jigsaw puzzles.
Engage your daughter in multisensory exercises like writing in the air or sand or using clay or on the ipad white board, using just finger. This will help her to feel the letter and remember the shape of it. Give verbal instructions on how to form a letter like for letter b start at the top, straight line down, back to the top, sideways smile, sideways smile.
For memorising the rules ask your daughter to create some rhyme . She has to continuously sing it.This would make information memorable. make it fun for her to remember. example just to remember plants sing this statement in form of rhyme "My very excellent mother just served us noodles" first letter of each word is starting letter of planets so start associating words.
Find out what is her strength like art or creativity, building, playing an instrument. Just help her to build on strength
Fostering the development of child with adhd means you have to learn to manage the behaviour of child. kindly go to a therapist who will help you address each things in detail.