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semicolon
16d ago

my family doesn't really care for me

it's kind of the sequel of the end of my latest post.

i will only bring recent exemples but imagine it's recurrent situations.


earlier it was my birthday, this year i decided to celebrate it fully alone because by the past i haven't been honoured the decent way.

and they proved me i was right to do so.


first none in my family proposed a plan to me, a simple restaurant or even house party with just the 3 of us (even tho it's not on d-day because of work it's fine) unlike it would be for other members. they actually didn't even ask if i had already plans and didn't ask about my day after at all, they actually talked about theirs, as if i didn't matter.

also my dad usually call us when it's our birthdays, and he didn't for me.


tho at 11pm before the end of my day my mom gave me a gift, it's been years she didn't so it's the only person i didn't expect something from. and she is the only one that gifted me something, i'm not materialistic at all, but it's just knowing there was a thought about me. she also brought me a cake, later she told me she actually saw my favorite cake but chose this one instead because my sister prefered this one. yep on my birthday.

for context actually my sister birthday was 2 weeks before and she wasn't with us and couldn't celebrate, so it's actually ok for me to celebrate hers with mine! it's just that i know that the opposite: others adapting to me wouldn't happen, and that once again i can't have my day about me.


tonight my sister turned on tv and i suggested to put a game for all the family to play, she said no because she has priority "because she wasn't at home latest days so she chose the program" she actually chose a game for herself but giving the questions to my mom, so they were playing together, leaving me out of the fun basically, i don't get why...

few days ago she was happy to ask me for 700$, take my clothes, but i can't even in return just have simple interest from them.

does she hate me? i don't even do something bad, i admit i'm emotional and negative because of the environment etc but i always try to be giving and helpful to her, i love my sister so much i could give my life to her but i feel she take me for granted, i only ask her to care when i open my mouth that's all.


is it my fault like did i ever show a signal that i don't require much? but the thing is when i show i expect i end disappointed, but well see even when i try to be prepared i still end hurt.

tbh i feel so embarassed to communicate about it, everytime it's always i'm too sensitive so i learned to shut up.

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x_shadow_warrior
15d

Don't feel bad! I think it's crucial to remember that your feelings are completely valid and shouldn't be dismissed as being "too sensitive." Emotional awareness is actually a strength, not a weakness. People who seem indifferent might be dealing with their own emotional limitations. What steps might help you feel more empowered in expressing your needs?

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AdamG99
15d

Family dynamics can sooo be challenging, I know!!


BUT your worth isn't determined by others or even how others treat you. Consider focusing on building strong connections outside your immediate family circle. You deserve to be celebrated and appreciated.


Build a life that brings you joy, independent of others' actions or reactions.


And yeas, personal growth often comes from challenging situations. Sometimes the family we choose can be more supportive than the one we're born into sadly though. Learning to value yourself independently of others' validation is a powerful step forward, I hope you're on that journey already! <3

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positive_vibes_only
11d

@AdamG99 agree. being emotionally aware is a gift that allows for deeper connections with those who appreciate it

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Thought
15d

Sending virtual hugs your way! Sometimes families don't understand the impact of their actions, but that doesn't make those actions any less hurtful. Keep being true to yourself and honor your emotions - they're telling you something important

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Emily Play
11d

Standing up for yourself doesn't mean you're being difficult.


It's about honoring your needs and feelings. Your emotions deserve acknowledgment and respect.


Where do you see yourself drawing strength from moving forward?

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lily_22
11d

Consider this situation an opportunity for personal growth and self-discovery. Everyone deserves to feel valued and appreciated, especially by their loved ones. Focus on nurturing relationships that bring positivity into your life. Remember that self-worth comes from within, not from external validation. Creating boundaries isn't about pushing people away - it's about teaching them how to treat you!

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LOSERRR
10d

i get you so much. don't give up

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RachelFrance
8d

Family relationships often require careful navigation and patience. It's important to recognize that while we can't control others' actions, we can control our responses and boundaries.

Taking care of your emotional well-being should be a priority. Sometimes distance can actually strengthen relationships in the long run. Maintaining your authenticity while dealing with family dynamics is crucial. So is setting healthy boundaries What boundaries would you like to establish first?

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Luna_Wolf
5d

Relationships are complex, especially family ones.



They require mutual respect, understanding, and effort from all sides. Learning to advocate for yourself while maintaining healthy boundaries is essential. Sometimes people don't realize their actions' impact until it's clearly communicated. Building confidence in expressing your feelings takes time, but it's worth the journey. Surrounding yourself with supportive people who value and appreciate you can make a significant difference

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