My boyfriend wants to come over sometime soon. I told him I’m not sure when because I need to see when my parents and I are going to visit my aunt and uncle. I keep feeling so uncomfortable around him because I just don’t know what I see in regards to our future. I wish I could just take a long break from him. Not break up but a break. I don’t want to move to North Carolina like he wants to. I feel selfish because we have been together for 10 years but moving 10 hours from my family and friends is just too much for me. He thinks that I have no friends here when I do and that I don’t have a career when I’m working towards one.he did apologize for saying that but it still hurt. I just wish I wasn’t in this situation. I’ve never felt so trapped in my life.

For Christmas, and for the next year, there is something I desperately want that I know money cannot buy.

the freedom to live the life I want to live: I have never had the chance to lead an independent life and I feel like my boyfriend of ten years and myself are becoming two different people and I feel myself changing. Becoming a different person with new dreams and desiring a more independent life. He and I have never lived together. He lives in Pennsylvania with his parents and I live in New Jersey with mine. I have never had my own place or have gotten to experience an independent life. He wants to move to North Carolina with his parents next year and I have no intention of doing so. I do not want to live 10 hours away from my family and friends. It’s just too much to ask. Am I wrong for wanting to live my own life? I feel so guilty for wanting this because we have been together for so long and I do still love and care about him but I can’t ignore my hearts desire. My boyfriend says I’m selfish and I think with my heart too much and not with my head. Sometimes I feel like he dosent notice how I’m feeling and just answers everything with stupid platitudes. Am I a bad person?

I'm 28, my husband is 34. I don't know if I want to be a mom. I have very confused feelings about it. I can't tell if it's really my desire or a societal pressure. I love my career and the freedom I have now. Will having a child mean giving up my dreams? My friends are starting to have kids. It makes me wonder if I'm ready for that kind of commitment

My husband says he's okay with whatever I decide, but I worry about disappointing him or regretting our choice later in life. What if we wait too long and miss our chance? I've always been good with kids, but being an aunt is different from being a mom. Can I handle the 24/7 responsibility? Will I be a good mother?

I think about the world we live in. Is it fair to bring a child into this world?

I've tried making pros and cons lists, but it feels impossible to rank something so life-changing. How do other women make this decision? Am I overthinking it? I wish there was a clear sign, something to tell me definitively what the right choice is

Even my friends think that I can easily get into my dream college but in reality I am questioning my worth ,The competition is cutthroat my parents and teachers are always asking me questions about my studies and scores and don't care for anything else, Everyone keeps telling me to work harder,But in reality I have somehow accepted that I can't do this or I should try something else that will make me feel better,I see people scoring less and being happy this makes me feel outcasted ,I get so anxious over simple conversation and think about it for days sometimes I lie to cover up my image of being a good student but I think my dad can see through me and he's disappointed,I want to help myself to get better and work happily without getting scared about the outcome.