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delta
1y ago

My slow ADHD kid is gonna drive me crazy.

My slow ADHD kid is gonna drive me crazy. My child has ADHD, and I came across an article about it. I want to share my experience with you. People often assume kids with ADHD are always hyperactive, but that's not the case for my child. In fact, my child sits all day or sleeps. It makes me sad to see him struggle, but we're working on finding ways to help him. He completes his school assignments at a sluggish pace and becomes fatigued rapidly. For instance, when it's time for homework, my child often just stares off into space. I have to work hard to keep his focus on the lessons. Even when we finally get started on the assignments, he gets tired very quickly. That's all. It's difficult for my child to concentrate in school, as he tends to daydream or doze off during classes. There's no point in hurrying. Scolding doesn't work. The child cries, which makes it impossible to continue with homework or engage them in the task. They cry for a while and then fall asleep. I'm unsure how to motivate them to study in school. He enjoys playing games on his cellphone, but after an hour of playing, he has outbursts. I'm having tantrums, too. I cry too. I can slap the baby. I'm ashamed of it. Then my husband comes and starts yelling at the child for not doing his homework. The child can do some of the assignments still. The next day he doesn't remember almost everything we taught him at home. He gets low grades at school. I don't know what to do anymore.

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Veena Choudhary
1y
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These are the strategies and techniques you can do:


  • Start rewarding your child for completing each assignment. This would motivate your child. Le that reward be something which child wants


  • Do it like a game. Play some song and tell the child before the song gets over you need to complete the assignment. let see who is first.


  • Connect uninteresting activities to areas of interest like if he likes math or art or sports then teach him connecting everything to his area of interest. This he will be able to connect and recollect from his memory. Example if he likes soccer relate math to sports activities and teach him math. If he likes cooking or baking show him how to use fractions to measure ingredients. If he likes art show him letter written in colourful or creative way to remember the words.


  • Keep him moving. Like tell him to complete 2 questions in the assignment and try doing a fun yoga pose.


  • Be Realistic as well. Each child has different capabilities. Determine how much your child can complete in a given time and ask him to take on. That will give him sense of accomplishment


  • Kindly talk to teacher and do ask extra time for each assignments.


  • Keep raising your child for doing an assignment or even completing half of it. This will make your child happy and influence him to complete the assignment next time.


  • Keep time to minimal for playing on cell phone. For extra time say he has to earn reward for it.



If you are feeling angry, frustrated with your child take a step back. Just calm down and relax. Take some time out for yourself. Do things what you like, go for a movie, meditate, go out with friends. Once you are energised you will be able to help your child out. If you expect perfect achievement from a child who is struggling in school as well as house to complete his assignment or to focus or to get high grades then you will turn yourself crazy. Just remember to focus on his effort he is putting in.

brandi
1y

Be strong and don't give up!!! You're a mother! You're the only one who can help your child!!! Take your child to the doctor...if you need to, treat it. And stay on the path to your goals! We all face hardships and setbacks, but it's these trials that make us stronger. Don't give up and remember that every step forward is already a little bit of luck

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conroyn
1y

I sympathize with your desire to help the child!!! I too have a lot of problems with my child... But I do not lose hope!!! and you do not lose hope!!! Maybe the child will just grow up and all the problems will be solved by themselves... The main thing for the child is the love of the parent....

alessandro
1y

Sometimes you face difficulties not because you are doing something wrong, but because you are doing something right. You don't realize how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have. Keep fighting, keep raising your child, keep developing study skills. Get help: doctors, tutors, teachers.

felipe
1y

I know things are tough right now, but I also know you have what it takes to get through this. You can do this!!! Yeah, it's not easy with a kid like that, get the doctors involved, given the slowness and fatigue..... Think about what else will help you.... Let me know when you're not feeling well. We'll get out of this together

eraynorа
1y

Don't worry!!! it's your baby and that's why it's the best!!! rearrange your baby's daily routine as he needs frequent rest breaks. Give medications to optimize memory (prescribed by a doctor), put him to bed on time, hire a good tutor and everything will be fine.

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My prayers go to you even though I can’t give advice on this topic

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