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malik
255d ago

pls help i cannot think or do anything

so basically I have finished my high school and I am pursuing medical field (mbbs) and have to give a entrance test in 59 day.but I am experiencing the worst anxiety that I have faced uptill now I was typically a strong minded person who had never faced anxiety or depression in my life but something changed in corona days I had my first ever panic attack in those days and after that I was generally fine with little to no stress related to exams because I was doing well in them. in Pakistan we call 11th and 12th standard college and have to give state mandated exam in the end of it. In my 10 standard I had given a state mandated exam in which I scored 80 percent which was enough for me to get into a great college. uptill now my mental health was at its peak no stress no anxiety only good thoughts but when my 11th exam results were announced I got to know that I had scored only 73percent which is terrible and was almost lowest in the my friend group which completely shattered my heart and my confidence I went through a very rough patch and went into a slight depressive state which I could not brush off .now in may I just gave my 12 exam and I worked very hard in preparation and gave my best pulling all nighters studying 14-15hrs a day but It gave me terrible anxiety putting me in a state of question that is this enough will I score high will my score be enough to get a high merit as medical school is very expensive and seats which are subsidized by country are very limited. I spent the whole of June in depression and had a constant noise In my head to kill myself as if I can't pursue my dream then I am no use to myself or my parents and even with the subsidized seats it will cost my parents upwards of 2000000 rupees and I don't wanna waste that I wanna become a doctor but I can't make myself study for the MCAT due to my anxiety it's reached to a point that I can't even eat anymore and just today I only had breakfast and nothing else the whole day I lay down in my bed and scroll through social media platform to take my mind off this but I still wanna study to get good grades. ( sorry if in-between my sentence structure did not make sense as English is not my first language)

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Veena Choudhary
250d
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Hi,


Negative thought patterns contribute to anxiety. Jumping to conclusion based on emotions, based on just 11th results will just hamper your emotions and pull your focus.

Every failure or Everything in life teaches us a lesson. you need to take it positively to achieve what you want to. You can only achieve if you try learning from the past mistake and not repeat it. You need to question your anxiety: ask what if i did not score high? what will happen? what is the other options for me? if i fail once will that happen again. isn't this just my assumption and not reality? what have i learnt from 11th results, what should you not do? what happened during corona which resulted in panic attack?


When you are anxious you need to distract your thoughts. start by reading aloud the chapters or playing music in the background or walking and reading. see if it works to help you concentrate on your subject.


Break down each chapter into smaller units and then decide how many units will you be able to complete and how long should that take. be realistic and not overburden yourself to just finish a lot. write in a big sheet of how much you read today and how much you were able to complete. Give yourself a pat on the back even if you have completed one unit. This will boost you.


when ever you get distracted start meditating by first focusing on a object for a minute. Then close your eyes visualise that object. continue to inhale and exhale along with it dwelling on details about the object like its look, shape, pattern etc.


Pay your attention to which time in the day you can focus strongest and try planning your day based on that.


Don't beat yourself just for one exam and don't pressurise yourself by saying you are of no use if you don't study. when you speak negatively it would only trigger anxiety. rather take this in a fun way and enjoy this process as you will be learning which will help you in your future. don't see this as exam or just your future dream but a process of learning everyday just for you. Just remember you have to do your best and that can only happen if you just calm yourself down. doing your best should matter to you. Results are not everything , test can always be retaken.


Speak to a therapist as well to work on the emotional turmoil.

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malik
255d
Author

thank you very much really needed these kind words I will follow your advice and I am trying to take it easy as stress is not gonna do me any good I have planned a meetup with my friend hopefully it will lift my morales and put me in a good place I will schedule my study time as I have procrastinated for too long and haven't even completed a chapter again thank you very much for these kind words.

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nancy b.
254d

First off, I want to say that you're incredibly smart and capable of doing anything. Your dream of becoming a doctor is admirable, but it's equally important to take care of your mental and physical health. Have you tried setting a more balanced routine? Incorporate regular breaks and activities that you enjoy into your study schedule. This can help reduce anxiety and improve your overall state.Your family and friends care about you and want to see you succeed, but they also want you to be healthy and happy. Keep in mind that this exam is just one step in your journey, not the end of the road. Your hard work and dedication will pay off, but it's important to take care of yourself along the way. You're stronger than you think, and you've already accomplished so much. Keep pushing forward, but don't forget to take care of your mind and body.

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catalinabrekke188
254d

OMG, I totally get it! High school and entrance exams can be such a nightmare 😱. It's like, why do they even exist?! You were so strong through all that craziness, and a panic attack? Ugh, that sucks. I mean, I couldn't even handle a bad hair day during that time 😂.

Scoring 80 percent in your 10th standard? That's amazing! 🎉 But then 73 percent in 11th? I mean, come on, it's still pretty good! It's like, almost the same number, right? But I know how friends can be. They're all like, "Oh, I got this, I got that," and you're just there like, "Can I live?" Your confidence took a hit, but you're still that awesome person deep down, trust me!

Studying 14-15 hours a day? Whoa, you're like a superhero or something 💪. I can hardly study for 14-15 minutes without needing a snack break. And pulling all-nighters? I would need a year-long nap after that. But seriously, your hard work will pay off, I'm sure of it.

June sounds like a drag, with all that noise in your head. But hey, look at you! You're still here, fighting through it all. Scrolling through social media to distract yourself? Been there, done that 📱. Sometimes, you just need to see a cute cat video to feel a bit better.

You're gonna rock those exams and become the best doctor ever. And when you do, remember this: You survived all this, and you can survive anything. You've got this! 🌟

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lenorearmstrong716
254d

it sounds like you're really struggling with anxiety and stress right now. i get that. it’s tough when you’ve always been the strong one and suddenly things change. the pandemic hit everyone hard, and it's not surprising that it triggered your first panic attack. your academic journey has had its ups and downs. scoring 80 percent in your 10th standard was a great achievement, but 73 percent in the 11th standard really seemed to knock you down. it’s okay to feel upset about that, but dwelling on it won’t help you move forward. you worked hard for your 12th exam, pulling all-nighters and studying for 14-15 hours a day. that’s intense, and it’s no wonder you’re feeling anxious. but constantly questioning if it’s enough isn’t going to change your results. letting anxiety paralyze you won’t help you reach your goals. you need to find a way to manage your anxiety so you can study for the mcat. not eating and spending all day on social media isn’t a solution. it’s just avoiding the problem. take small steps to get back on track. start with a study schedule that includes breaks. talk to someone about your anxiety. you’ve faced tough times before, and you can get through this too. just don’t let fear control your future.

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Brad
254d

I'm so sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. It sounds like you're going through an incredibly tough time with your studies and anxiety, and it's okay to feel overwhelmed by it all. Sometimes, just acknowledging the struggle you're in can be a step towards healing. It's important to remember that you're not alone in this, and there are people who care about you and want to help. You're stronger than you think, and you have the resilience to get through this. Keep holding onto hope, even when it feels distant, and be kind to yourself along the way.

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Jor49
254d

Hi there, first of all, I want to tell you that it’s completely okay to feel this way, especially given the immense pressure you’re under. Your feelings are valid. It's important to recognize that your mental health is just as important as your academic success. I know it's easier said than done, but try to take things one step at a time. Start with small goals, like studying for an hour, then taking a break. Remember that you’re not alone; many people go through similar struggles. Eating well and getting some exercise can make a big difference in how you feel overall. You've worked so hard to get here, and you should be proud of that. Please remember that your worth is not determined by your exam scores. You have so much to offer the world beyond academics. Hang in there, and take care of yourself.

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aiden1999
254d

Wow!! You're so strong! I couldn't imagine studying 6 hours a day let alone 14!!!!?? Anxiety sucks and it can slow the progress down, but with your determination and discipline I am more than sure that you're gonna pass your exams successfully! 👌 You have to remind yourself of how far you've already come and celebrate yourself! You can and will do it, it just will take a lil bit more time and that's fine. Hug yourself, you deserve it!

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blaise86212
254d

I want to acknowledge the courage it took for you to share your feelings. It's not easy to talk about mental health, especially when you're under so much pressure. It's clear that you're very dedicated to your studies and your future career, and that's commendable. However, it's important to balance that dedication with self-care. Consider setting up a routine that includes regular breaks, healthy meals. Also, don't forget the power of positive reinforcement. Celebrate your small victories, whether it's completing a study session or simply getting out of bed. Every step forward is progress. Your hard work will pay off

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Orlando
254d

Dear, I understand the pressure and anxiety you are facing. The weight of expectations and the fear of failure can be overwhelming. In Buddhism, we learn that suffering often arises from our attachment to outcomes. You have worked hard and given your best, and that is all you can do. Release your attachment to the results. Focus instead on the process, on the present moment. Take a few moments each day to practice mindful breathing. Sit quietly, close your eyes, and focus on your breath. Let go of your worries and just be in the moment. This can help calm your mind and reduce your anxiety. And remember, this too shall pass. Your current anxiety and stress are temporary. They will not last forever. Trust in yourself and your abilities.

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Sandra Leonard
254d

I understand how real academic struggles can be. When I was working towards my degree, I often felt the same way. There were times when I couldn't believe I would ever make it through. It seemed impossible at the beginning, but somehow, I managed to do it.

You are not alone in feeling this way. Many people experience anxiety and stress, especially when it comes to important exams and career goals. It's normal to feel overwhelmed when so much is at stake. The pressure can be huuge, and it's easy to doubt yourself.

Taking care of your mental health is just as important as studying. Try to find a balance between work and relaxation. Even short breaks can help clear your mind and reduce anxiety. Eating well and getting enough sleep are also crucial. Your body and mind need fuel to function properly.

It's important to focus on one step at a time. Instead of thinking about the entire test, break it down into smaller, manageable tasks. Set realistic goals for each day. Celebrate small achievements to build your confidence. I know it's hard, but try to limit your time on social media. It can be a distraction and add to your stress. Instead, find activities that relax you and make you happy. Reading, walking, etc.

Remember why you started this journey in the first place. Your dream of becoming a doctor is worth fighting for. You've already come so far, and you have the strength to keep going. Believe in yourself and your abilities.

There will be ups and downs, but that's part of the process. It's okay to have bad days. What's important is that you don't give up. Keep pushing forward, even when it's tough. Your hard work will pay off. You have the capability to achieve your goals. You've got this.

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