Hello guys why do I feel very scared and don't want to go to office?
I have very good team and work culture but I don't see anyone or greet anyone I just don't know what to talk also I don't speak in group and I get very anxious in group of people by seeing my behaviour many people think I have attitude so now they too stopped talking to me in office but I'm real I don't have attitude it's me who is trying to get rid of group and stay alone but in my office all are extroverts many speak behind me I have attitude so I stay very reserved but some people already know me how silent person I am
I'm doing work from home but soon company will call us to office again I don't want to go
I don't have social life there I'm just scared to make frnds
I want to have good social life and get promotion in my work
How to stop this social anxiety and stop what other people think about me? How to focus on my work and get success?
I want a good remote job but my applications are getting rejected
How to be happy? I'm always overthinking and I get very very scared whenever I have office it's not just office but any social or family or any gatherings
I want to be happy and live like normal human being
But my anxiety is very serious sometimes I become unconscious and I don't know what to talk in group
Listen, I get this completely. As a painter, I spent years just sketching in private, terrified to show anyone my work. Every artist thinks their work isn't good enough, that's just part of the creative process. Your stories deserve to be told. Period. The world needs more stories, more perspectives, more voices. Even if a story has been told before, it hasn't been told through your lens, with your unique twist. Think about how many vampire stories exist, yet people still create and consume new ones. That's because each creator brings something fresh to the table. Don't let fear rob the world of your stories. Start writing them down, even if just for yourself. Build that confidence slowly
@jwright2017.1988 digital artist here and I agree. Here's what I've learned: creativity isn't about being completely original, it's about adding your unique perspective to existing ideas. Think about music - there are only 12 notes, but endless combinations create unique songs. Writing is similar - there are common themes and plot elements, but the way you combine them makes something new. The fear of not being good enough is actually a good sign - it means you care about your craft. Every creative person deals with these doubts
Everything has been done before, but not by YOU. Your unique voice, that's what makes your stories special. Think about your favorite books, how many of them share similar themes? Yet each one touches us differently. The key is starting somewhere, anywhere, even if it isn't perfect. Why not start with just one scene from one of your story ideas tonight?
hey! just dropping by to share that i used to be a professional dancer, and we face similar creative blocks. the stage fright, the comparison trap, the endless "what ifs." each performance was like putting my soul on display. but i started treating my art like a conversation rather than a performance. when you're just talking with friends, you don't worry if someone else has said similar things before, right? you don't worry to screw up, because friend won't judge you. the magic happens in the way you tell it. when you're writing, try to imagine that you telling a story to your friend
Do something you like without looking back. Do things unapologetically, no other opinion matters but your own
@steven brooks I love this! I just wish I was brave enough to do it
@megan kohler I always thought bravery was a skill you could build up gradually. Take your time, do the scary stuff gradually and eventually that scary thing won't be so terrifying anymore
Perfectionism often masks a deeper fear of vulnerability. Being creative means opening yourself up to judgment, and that's scary. The "good enough" threshold keeps moving because it's not really about quality - it's about feeling safe. Remember that every published author started with a first draft that probably wasn't perfect. Your stories deserve to exist, even if they're not masterpieces yet. The key word is "yet." When do you feel most confident about your writing abilities?
I relate to this on a whole different level!! When I started making music, I had these exact same thoughts. I started treating my creative work like a playground instead of a performance space. No pressure, just play. Sometimes I write terrible songs, and that's okay! It's part of the process
The same applies to writing i think (?) every word you write is practice, even if it never sees the light of day. Think about how many drafts your favorite authors probably went through. Every masterpiece started as a rough draft. My main idea is to let yourself experiment without judgment
@dgutierrez2020 Hi! Your comment really caught my eye! I've been wanting to write songs for the longest time but I keep getting stuck. Like, I have all these feelings and thoughts I want to put into lyrics, but when I try to write them down, I freeze up. I have a notebook full of random lines and ideas but I never finish anything. Sometimes I sit at my desk for hours just staring at blank pages. I love music so much and I listen to all kinds of genres trying to figure out how other people do it. The other day I was humming something in the shower and thought it could be good, but then I got out and couldn't remember the tune and words anymore. I've been playing guitar for a few years now, so I can make some nice melodies, but putting words to them feels impossible. Do you ever get that feeling where you know exactly what you want to express but can't find the right way to say it??
@dgutierrez2020 Your approach sounds so free and fun. I wish I could be that relaxed about it. Yesterday I tried writing something without judging myself, but I kept thinking about all these songs I love and comparing my stuff to them. My brain won't let me just experiment. I have this old keyboard collecting dust in my room because every time I sit down to play, I feel like I need to create something amazing. The funny thing is, I write in my diary all the time without worrying about how good it is. Maybe I should try treating songwriting more like that? Like just writing about my day but with a melody?
@dgutierrez2020 I love the idea of a "never show anyone" folder! I think I need to make one of those. Recently I found my old music notebooks from high school, and instead of cringing at them like I usually do, I just laughed and appreciated how freely I used to write back then. Do you ever go back and listen to your old beats? I bet you have some interesting experiments hidden away!
@IRMA You should record voice memos on your phone, just humming or beatboxing whatever comes to mind. Most of mines are pretty embarrassing, but sometimes there's a good idea in there!
Sooo I actually don't write lyrics at all, I'm just a bedroom producer making beats for fun. Not all of my stuff is good, but I have fun making it. I've got folders full of unfinished projects that no one will ever hear, and that's totally fine. Some days I just open up my software and mess around with different sounds for hours. No goal, no pressure, just playing around. It's kind of like when we were kids building with legos, we weren't trying to make masterpieces, we were just having fun putting pieces together
@IRMA I rarely share my stuff, maybe once or twice I've shown something to my roommate, but that's it. Most of my beats are just experiments anyway. Like last month, I spent an entire weekend making beats using only sounds from my kitchen, pots, pans, spoons, everything. The result was pretty chaotic, but it was so much fun!
I've noticed that my best ideas come when I'm not trying to make anything good, just playing around with sounds like a kid with new toys. Some nights I'll stay up way too late just layering different drum patterns, and most of them end up in my "never show anyone" folder
I work in accounting and creativity seems so far removed from my daily life, but it just makes me admire creative people like you that much more! I think it's amazing that you have all these story ideas in your head. That's already something special. Most people (including me 😅) don't even have ideas, but you? You have whole worlds living in your imagination! That's AWESOME!
My mom always wanted to learn to paint. She waited a lot of years because she thought she wasn't good enough. She finally started taking classes last year, at 54. Now she says her biggest regret is not starting sooner. She's happy when she paints, and that's what matters ❤️
And you know what? Bad writing can be fixed. But a story that's never written? That can't be fixed at all. It just stays stuck in your head forever. I think you should give it a try. Write something small. Don't worry about it being good or bad. Just get it out of your head and onto paper. Then write another one. And another one
I might not know much about writing, but I know a thing or two about regret. And I think you'd regret not trying more than you'd regret trying and making mistakes
Sending you all the best! ❤️
I draw comics for a living, and every single project starts with that same fear, the only way past it is through it. Start small, start messy, but start somewhere. Which story idea excites you the most right now?
The fear of not being good enough nearly stopped me from making my first short film. I kept thinking about all the amazing directors out there and how my work would never measure up. But then I realized something, every creator I admire started somewhere, usually with work they probably cringe at now. That's just part of the process. I heard somewhere that your first 100 works are gonna be bad, but if you keep going, you'll reach your masterpiece
I've watched many of my super talented friends go through the exact same thing you're describing. Here's what I always tell them: every single writer started somewhere. Even the greatest authors had to write their first story, and I bet it wasn't perfect. Nobody's first try is perfect, and that's totally okay! I think you should try something: pick one of your story ideas, just one, and start writing it. Don't worry about it being perfect. Don't worry about what others might think. Just write it for yourself first. You can always edit it later. You can always make it better. And here's a little secret: most writers feel exactly like you do. Even the successful ones worry their work isn't good enough. But they keep writing anyway. I really believe you can do this. The important thing is to start. You don't have to show anyone your first draft if you don't want to. It can be just for you until you feel ready to share it
I'm actually excited for you because you're at the beginning of what could be an amazing journey. And the fact that you care so much about doing it right shows that you have the heart of a real writer. So please, give yourself permission to try
@Gabrielle I agree with this so much, the only thing I'll add, OP, is that you are already a writer! You are already doing it! You can do the creative stuff too. Open a new document right now. Today. Write one paragraph about anything. Just one. Then tomorrow, write another one. Don't think about where it's going or if it's good. Just write it