you know when someone doesn't realize the obvious wrongdoing they're doing to you is one (bothering) thing, but when they claim they're victim of a situation THEY are inflicting to YOU? wow it's another type of frustration.
i saw on my timeline a post saying "you can literally be fighting for your life and people will only notice that you aren't showing up for them the way they want"
i reposted it because it talked to me in many situations, i'm overly giving and i've been abused due to that to the point that when i say i'm not in a good place being in a burn out, some selfish people will show their disappointment at me not being devoted to them.
i can quote:
-the time my abuser was mad at me when i was panicking when i was cyberharassed (and she saw it) because i was not entertaining her
-the time i had to close one social app for safety reasons, but a friend didn't want to talk to me on another app we have in common and that she uses, i had to put back the other app
but the first situation that came to my mind was another one, because the person many times tried to milk my attention. some examples like me saying to her "hey i can't pick up the phone i work" and she still tries to call. or her asking me last minute a complicated and not that important service when she criticizes other people using me like that and while i told her how hard it was for me these days. i will explain under the worst she did to me.
one time she asked me help about an outfit, i told her i was on my most important project ever, with a loooot of stress in the process, so she was very aware and i said will see how i can help her (maybe it's my fault for not saying no) so she asked when i could be free, she suggested saturday and we both agreed.
but then the first night of the week she sent me her haul expecting a reply. as i'm nice i took 25min to analyse everything and make a choice even tho it made me anxious stopping my work for a few minutes. see she didn't honor her own rules.
but it's not over, she did it again, for every night of the week, and for the same exact outfit even tho i already told her my answers, she was forcing to get my attention which was impolite.
at the end saturday i didn't got news from her and as something happened with my abusive mom i forgot i admit. my mom pushed so hard i almost commited you know what, so i had other thing in mind (my friend couldn't guess of course it's not about the specific happening) and tbh i though my past answers to my friend were enough.
then my friend came at me saying she cried because i LET HER DOWN, i exploded. i was angry because i did everything for her stupid whim and she is the one who didn't respect anything not caring about me.
so the person who did all that to me is the one who reposted the post i depicted at the beginning, implying she is always the one carrying and caring about others, i found it really hypocritical. it's also not the first time i saw her reposting pov that are not at all what she is living but actually inflicting on others, or inventing personality she doesn't have like "i never ask for help" while constantely wanting me to serve her needs etc
