If I tell a person things aren’t going to work and revoke communication access, that doesn’t require a response nor is it an invitation for them to attempt convincing me otherwise. I’m politely informing them because I’m anticipating a high probability of conflict if we remain in contact and with wanting to save everyone’s time and preserve my mental/emotional wellbeing, I’ll remove myself before it gets to that extent. Stopping cycles before they start essentially. Due to past experiences I developed pattern recognition and thanks to therapy, I’ve enhanced that skill.
I don’t believe in ghosting because unless the person is an active threat to me or my loved ones, I have enough communication skills to vocalise my thoughts, feelings and opinions regardless of if they’re disagreed with. However, if someone decides to be pervasive and incessantly attempts to contact me post disassociation, I won’t respond but WILL start building a case. If I (or ANYONE) chooses not to pursue something with another, that should be respected at face value. Harassing an individual into responding is CRAZY work, and gives me the impression you’re mentally unwell. In my case, I WILL file a protective order if it reaches that extent.
No response is a response.
I have no interest in keeping contact with former friends, acquaintances, colleagues, romantic partners or anyone it feels as if I’ve outgrown. If I’ve cut contact for reasons related to repeated violation of boundaries or respect, LEAVE me alone. I’m very transparent about what I will and won’t tolerate in the relationships I build so if you make it a point to show you’re disinterested in cultivating genuine connections, cool. I’ll cut you off and keep it moving. I’m not going to argue or antagonise anyone for their inability to meet bare minimum expectations and to respect me as a person.
Now I can’t tell if this is the universe testing me or not, but over the past week I’ve had an influx of former romantic entanglements reach out hoping to rekindle, all to be ignored or blocked. I’ve learned my lesson and I’m not looking to entrap myself in trauma bonds or toxic cycles. But for some reason they think my lack of response means to “try harder.” I very genuinely don’t understand people like this but they’re annoying. You made your bed now lie in it and leave me the fuck alone.
