Think my wife’s in love with her colleague

It’s my wife's colleague Conrad, newly arrived from Australia... It seemed innocent enough. She would mention him in passing, talk about projects they were working on together, comment about his wife. But as time went on, details started popping up that made me nervous. The first red flag was how often she talked about him. His name was always on the tip of her tongue. She would tell me about how funny he was, and how well they worked together. Then there are the emails. I know I shouldn't have done it but I couldn't shake the feeling that something was off. I read her conversations with Conrad, and what I saw made my heart sink. They were discussing work-related stuff, but it was filled with inside jokes and a level of familiarity that made me uncomfortable. As if they had developed a close emotional relationship. In one email my wife says she’s “confused” about her feelings. It’s not the exact quote, but they were talking about feelings… I tried to rationalize it, telling myself that maybe I was overreacting. But the more I think about it, the more the pieces seem to fit together. The late nights at the office, the constant talk of Conrad, and now these intimate emails.

I confronted her about it, but she brushed it off. She assured me that they were just friends and that I have nothing to worry about. I did not tell her I’ve read her emails because I know she extremely values her privacy. The thought of her developing feelings for someone else, especially a married man, fills me with a mix of anger and sadness. I never thought our marriage would be tested like this, and now I'm left wondering if she’s abusing my trust and whether f I should forgive her.

Thanks for taking the time to read